Ok, so I know I have been very very quiet on the blog lately, although I have tried to make sure that there are still great posts for you by way of some amazing guest contributors in the interim and hopefully I will be able to continue bringing them to you as well as those of my own.
This isn’t going to be a long post because, during this time that I have been absent from my blog, I have come to a few revelations, one of which is, that posts don’t have to be 2000 words long to be “read worthy” they don’t even have to be 500 words long. If I have something to say I am going to say it. If I don’t have anything to say then I won’t and I don’t have to be worried about losing anybody to my lack of posts. The people that want to read what I have to say will be there when I post.
So life has been a little crazy lately with a number of huge changes taking place, as well as some big issues of a personal nature to deal with, I’ll get into those in a little bit, because today I want to talk to you about what to do when things just go south! My immediate answer to this would be to take a walk and just roll with it!
One of the biggest reason for being so quiet on my blog lately is due to the fact that in the beginning of August our company got a new director and so every waking minute at work has been devoted to helping him settle in and still try to keep my shit together with my regular work. I have taken over a number of responsibilities from the previous director’s secretary which are now added to my work description and although good, it has been quite an adjustment, to say the least. I have also been struggling to keep my shit together at home with the crazy schedules of my children and all their extra mural’s, school work and appointments. My husband also started a new job in August and that has been a major adjustment for us both as it has also included travelling for him and a logistical nightmare of sorts for me. I had also decided a month or two back to stop using weekends to tend to my blog because it was severely affecting my family/home life and my children and my actual home were starting to be the casualties. That made me sit upright and see that I really was becoming too obsessed and decided that it was time to chill.
My health has also been a concern of late as I have been struggling with something called “Facet joint syndrome” which is essentially an arthritic condition which affects the spine and although fairly common in people like me with a sedentary job and a predisposition to it because of the Rheumatoid Arthritis I already have, I have been in immense pain and have been through a course of physio and some major anti-inflammatories that seem to have given me the relief I have so badly needed. This has led me to take a look at how active I am and that I have seen the need to get my behind into gear and get exercising to oil the joints. I have started running now and after not doing any kind of running for more than 15 years it really is starting slow. I discovered the Couch to 5K programme and got started with that over the weekend. So here’s hoping that I manage to work my way up to the kind of fitness level that is required to run 5Km, I certainly would love to tick that off my bucket list. If anything it has been an amazing way to clear my head. It’s true what they say about hitting the open road.
Another reason for being so quiet is that although I couldn’t find the time to post proper valuable reading for you, and although I had many products I had reviewed and was ready talk about, I simply couldn’t bring myself to bombard you with hordes of sponsored and review posts just to keep blog posts up without at least being able to post valuable content from my own heart in between. That is not what this blog is intended for and I also never want it to be that. So yes there will still be reviews on things I have found and enjoyed but that balance that I know you enjoy will be there. For a while now, and even before my “Sabbatical”, I was starting to really feel like I was losing my “blogging voice” and selling out with all the sponsored posts and giveaways and after one of the recent guest contributions by Caley Rosenberg on being still I had to sit down and take stock and see that I truly was. For that I feel I really want to apologise to my loyal readers and subscribers, I have not done right by you.
The next revelation I had was that I made a mistake… yes you read that right and I am a firm believer in being able to admit when you are wrong. I spent some time after my blog relaunch monitoring how the change affected my readership and engagement, and all I discovered was that those changes that I worked so hard on bringing to life were in vain because I failed to do one really important thing, and that is really know my audience. So again I apologise for not doing right by you. Yes, I am a working woman and mother and that is still what I want to focus on but not to the extent that clearly making all those changes distanced me from being a ‘real” person to my readers and not just another person trying to sell myself as a brand. So you will see I have toned things down a bit and hope that I have made my blog and social media more approachable for you and that you will continue to support and read my blog and never feel that I am not someone you can’t reach out to and relate to. So call my silence due to this discovery just me being enormously embarrassed and I’ll try and pick up the pieces from here.
So I saw this quote the other day and it really resonated with me. I thought I would share it with you here. Now knowing exactly what a kidney stone feels like (I have had three or four now) I know the relief you feel once it’s through and that is kind of how I feel now in writing this post.
I promised that this post wouldn’t be long and here I am already at just over a 1000 words. I don’t really have much else to say except that I am back and it is me, the real me. The blogger you started to follow when I was still a “Supermom” the one with the relevant parenting stories and other working mum related articles. I am still here, it just took me a little while to find out that I had lost myself a little bit and therefore was losing touch with you too.
As you know, I love engagement and to connect with my readers, so I thought I would ask some questions I asked on my Facebook page this morning. Please let me know what your thoughts are on these? I’d love to know more of what you want, what you hate and what you think.
1. What makes you or makes you not to engage with blog posts and also social media posts from bloggers and why do you think it substantially less than in the past?
2. What type of posts would make you more likely to engage regularly on my blog and stay to read?
3. What makes you as a reader share a blog post or social media post?
So that’s it from me, I feel like I can breathe and I have to thank you for indulging me and letting me get this all off my chest.
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